Monday, August 19, 2019

Changes are Coming--Get Ready!

Hello, Delivered People!

As you can see by the dates, I was having trouble deciding what I was going to do with this blog and whether I was going to keep it at all.

When I first started the blog, I was working with Indeed Crowd to spread the word about healthcare jobs. Indeed Crowd folded. At that point, I had just started delivering food and was involved with a number of survey programs. I'm still involved with some of them, but just how much can you talk about that?

I started participating in blog hops and found that many of the blogs out there are fashion-oriented. Well, I am hardly what people think of when they think of a model, so I found it a bit discouraging. Plus, I had moved most of my posts about food and the like over to my Good Stuff From Grover blog, so this blog no longer seemed to have any purpose.

You can ask anyone who knows me, I'm not one to throw things out. I had a year until the next payment for this domain was coming due, so I figured I could sit on the blog till then, and if any inspiration leaped to mind, I've got a site right here ready for repurposing.

It came to me, like a flash, like a vision.

The thing that bothered me about the fashion blogs was not the fact that they were about fashion, although I'm something of the anti-fashion chick because of having very little money, being old and tired, and not being conventionally attractive or anywhere near the same zip code as thin.

The thing that bothered me about the fashion blogs was that so many of them were focused on being thin and conventionally attractive and physically fit in a certain way rather than being a blog for Everywoman. So, I decided that once I am settled in my new home, I'm going to repurpose this blog as a fashion blog for Everywoman.

Granted, since I am a large person, many of the posts will be about finding cool things to wear as a big gal. None of these posts will be about trying to make myself look thinner or about hiding my various rolls and bumps. I don't believe in stuffing myself into undergarments which make me feel like I'm a sausage or in stupid claims such as "tummy tamer" or "hip hider." Let's face it, when your build is Whole Lotta Rosie rather than Skinny Minnie, you ain't gonna be able to hide them hips, Child, and I say, if you've got it, flaunt it. Also, the only way my "tummy" ever needs to be "tamed" is if it's malfunctioning in some way, i.e. heartburn. I've got Zantac for that.

I did not come to this point of self-acceptance with being a large person in a society which loathes large people overnight. Far from it. I have a history of eating disorders starting when I was twelve years old and became bulimic because I was devastated that my developing hips were too wide to continue wearing my (child's) size nine jeans. I thought of myself as disgustingly fat.

There are a couple of problems with this way of thinking, and neither of them is on me or any other girl who has been pushed to think this way.

First, I was, at that point, wearing a ladies' size one pants. I weighed about 105 pounds and stood about five foot three.

Second, it doesn't matter what I weighed. No-one should ever be pushed to think that their body is bad or wrong. No-one. Not ever.

I did the Disordered Eating Dance and the Yo-Yo-Dieting Dance for the next 33 years. Admissibly, ED still rears his ugly head sometimes, but I will never again dance the Yo-Yo Dieting Dance. It's a bad tune and it never did me a damn bit of good. Truth be told, I had to stop dieting so I wouldn't gain more weight.

Here is what happens with dieting in most cases.

The dieter loses weight the first few times they diet. After a point, particularly if the dieter has endocrine issues, i.e. hypothyroidism or PCOS, the dieter stops losing weight. It doesn't matter if they only eat 500 calories a day. They will still not lose weight. Diets don't work long-term for more than approximately five percent of the population, but don't take my word for it. Check out these sites for the scientific facts.

In any case, I'm planning to turn this into my own fashion and fitness/health blog, because fashion isn't only for the slim, wealthy and conventionally attractive, and fitness and health are not only for those who can approximate the fitness levels of elite athletes.

I'm not big on rules, but, unfortunately, since fat hate is normalized and even encouraged, there are a few I will have to enforce.

1) No concern trolling. Not ever. I don't care how "concerned" for someone's "health" you are. Let's face it, your "concern" is not about their "health" in the first place. Go be "concerned" in your own space. Your "concern" is not welcome here.

2) I shouldn't have to say this, but there will be absolutely, positively, no size shaming allowed. To reiterate what I just said from a slightly different angle, no fat-shaming, and, on the flip side of the coin, no thin praising. Thin shaming is not welcome either. Don't size shame, mmmkay?

3) No diet talk. Not ever. I don't give a flying monkey's butt about your diet. 

4) No weight talk. People gain and lose weight for a variety of reasons. It's none of anyone else's business.

5) Fuck "flattering." Flattering is code for "it makes you look thinner." Around here, "flattering" doesn't fly.

6) What it says at the top of this post. All women are real, and all bodies are good bodies. Learn it. Live it. Love it.

I hope to have some fabulous fatshion to model for y'all in the not too distant future. Please keep in mind that I am not a model, although I have done some modeling in the past. Butt nekkid, for art classes, and no, I was not young, thin, or pretty at the time. I'm not going to be doing any butt nekkid modeling here, though. All pictures will be of the clothed variety.

In the meantime, do yourself a favor and check out the only diet that I will ever endorse. 

Be back soon!


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